How To Get Your Dream Diamond Engagement Ring - A Woman's Perspective
How can you get your dream diamond engagement ring if your boyfriend is planning to make the purchase and give it to you as a 'surprise'? That's a tough problem to solve, after all, in his mind, this is going to be his choice, his responsibility, even though he will want you to be delighted with his choice. This is going to take a little bit of feminine magic! Firstly, when he goes shopping for your diamond engagement ring, he is, above all showing his love for you. But a man is a man, they do not always think in the same way as we women do.
How Your Man Chooses An Engagement Ring
Your man will have three priorities when he goes in search of an engagement ring that will be ideal for you.
1) He wants the engagement ring to be a good investment - that will make him feel comfortable with what he spends.
2) He wants you to be happy with the ring and his proposal of marriage.
3) He will be very afraid and nervous about disappointing you and, even worse, that you will reject his proposal.
All these three points are about your man's fear of making mistakes. Of course, he could ask for your advice, but the man who takes the responsibility entirely on his own shoulders will not be able to do that! Also, as men often do, he will try hard to make logical choices about a purchase that is, in truth, a highly emotional issue.
Your man is likely to go about buying your engagement ring in the same way that he tackles most matters in his life. He will research the subject of buying an engagement ring in great detail. If he is meticulous he will even create a spreadsheet with all his data and then he will try to make a logical choice. Your man will assume that you have the same priorities as he does and so he will focus upon the 'good investment' aspect of the purchase. He is likely to seek out a diamond ring of as high quality as possible, even if it costs him more than he can afford, because he will be thinking that anything less implies a lower degree of love for you.
Shopping For The Ring Makes Him Nervous!
Even in the days of the Internet, a man's first stop is likely to be a shopping mall and a national chain of jewellers. As soon as he walks into the shop he will realise that he has entered a world where everything is new and foreign to him! All his prior research means nothing when he looks at the multitude of rings set out in the jeweller's display cases. He will see more zeros in the prices than anything he has seen since he bought his last car! His heart will start pounding as he finally realises that he is about to spend thousands of pounds on a tiny stone that he knows nothing about and then give it to somebody else. Worse yet, he will do all that and could still face rejection.
Now his legs are shaking, there's sweat on his brow and his Right Guard is working overtime on his armpits. At this point he will do his best to look composed while he decides to do yet more research - but this time in a more friendly environment where he can feel more in control.
Turning on his heels, he leaves the store, the shopping mall, goes home, turns on his computer and starts looking for ways to survive the stresses of the engagement ring buying process. His goals might have changed a little at this point. Now he wants to find a pretty ring that you will like and, maybe, just maybe, leave him with a few pounds in his bank account!
Your boyfriend will feel much more comfortable with discussions about the Four Cs (colour, clarity, cut and carat weight) and how he can match up these grades with his budget and find some options that will be acceptable to you.
With the knowledge he has acquired will come a sinking feeling that there is a lot more that he needs to know in order to protect himself from making a very expensive mistake. His need to avoid making a mistake means that he will probably spend the next few weeks, or even months, pulling together all the available information, every fact, every opinion on buying a diamond engagement ring. For him, it is almost like trying to drink from a high-pressure hose. There's just too much information for him to take in. It can lead to a mental condition called Analysis Paralysis.
At this point, some men lose track of why they started the process of buying you an engagement ring in the first place! Your man might even lose track of the fact that this is all about doing something to make you happy!
How Can You 'Secretly' Help Your Man Choose The Right Engagement Ring?
You're a woman, you have probably seen this before, perhaps to a lesser degree, you can understand the picture! Right now, you probably feel a little sorry for the man you love and are asking yourself 'What can I do to make sure that I get my dream diamond engagement ring and the romantic marriage proposal that I have been planning in my head for months or years?' here are several suggestions that might help to make your dreams a reality.
1) Do a little bit of 'research shopping' yourself so that you can drop hints to your boyfriend about the type of diamond you would like on your finger. Don't leave it to him to guess wrong - because they often do!
2) If your intuition tells you he is planning a surprise then you can give him clues about the type of ring, the style and design, you prefer. Do you like a solitaire or cluster design, do you want side stones on the ring? Important little details that many men will miss in pursuit of the biggest diamond they can afford. If you do not have any particular preferences, then let him know to buy you something simple. That way he won't make any expensive mistakes.
3) If you prefer a particular type or colour of precious metal to be used in the ring try to find a way to tell him.
4) If your relationship will support doing so, suggest that you become involved in the buying process. Doing so will, by association solve the problem of you turning down his proposal, after all, you're choosing the engagement ring together - by implication, you are planning to marry the guy. That'll be a weight off his mind! These days, more and more couples are choosing the engagement ring together. The outcome is usually a happier couple and less stress all around.
When you shop together all the issues of your preferences are solved. If you like what you see and the quality and price suit then you are good to go. He can even buy the ring on his own and make the presentation and proposal a surprise.
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He's Doing His Best To Make You Happy!
At the end of the day, your boyfriend is doing the best he can to get everything right and make you happy. If you help him along the way, be a little bit crafty, a little bit patient and appreciate the effort he is making for you, then you will end up with your dream diamond engagement ring.
These days, shopping online really is the best way to choose your ideal engagement ring. We have a massive selection of British designed and handcrafted diamond engagement rings to suit all prices and styles. We are sure to have something to inspire you. Perhaps you could 'accidentally on purpose' leave a page showing your dream engagement ring open for him to see and take a hint?
One final thought, don't belittle the effort he will have put into researching your engagement ring. A little knowledge can really help when it comes to getting the best diamond jewellery. That's why we at All Diamond create so much informative and educational content about all aspects of diamond jewellery.
